Episode 75: Envy and Jealousy

Join Lindsay and Malia as they discuss “pink-on-pink” envy and jealousy amongst women and the role the patriarchy could play in it.

Links mentioned in this podcast:

Woman-on-woman jealousy: worst motivator ever, or worst motivator ever?
Why are women so critical of each other?
Pyschology Today’s articles on Jealous
Opening bumper: Dr. Phil clip

5 Replies to “Episode 75: Envy and Jealousy”

  1. Hey, thank you so much for including me in this podcast! (Which I am listening to right now and enjoying very much.) I’m really happy to contribute my little part to the conversation about women and jealousy, so thanks for that.

  2. Woohoo! I’m so glad you brought Malia back on! Really interesting topic. Being a man, I have hardly any knowledge of how envy and jealousy among women work, so it was fascinating to hear your discussion. I did think it was interesting, though, that even as an outsider, I have totally seen the norm where women aren’t allowed to accept a compliment that you all discussed. It’s really unfortunate.

  3. Thanks for introducing me to Fit & Feminist! Also I loved the podcast, it really made me think. I’ve started allowing myself to accept compliments. I recently got my haircut and I get a lot of comments on it and I just say “thanks, I love it too”. It feels good to just acknowledge that.

    As a mid-twenties woman without kids in a dual income relationship, I get a lot of “I’m jealous” comments directed towards me. It really makes me feel uncomfortable too, and I’m never sure how to respond. What my friends don’t realize is they have things that I’m jealous of too (like owning a house, no student loans, nicer cars, etc.). I just don’t like to play the “I’m jealous of” game.

  4. Thank you for your candid discussion of the many times unspoken feelings we women have for one another. I am struck by our seemingly innate desire to hurt each other to gain the prize of attention from men.

    The source of this problem was made clearer to me in a great book Jeff Van Vonderen (Families Where Grace Is in Place: Building a Home Free of Manipulation, Legalism, and Shame)
    in which he pointed out that part of the curse exacted upon Eve was that “Your desire shall be for your husband”. And while we tend to accept the idea the results of the fall of Adam and Eve as “normal” Van Vonderen was reminding us that this was not God’s intention for us, but the curse instead, and that by reconciling with God through Christ this curse could also be lifted from us.

    I love that idea!

  5. Green and violet! You were green and violet!

    (I laughed when I heard that part. Also I loved this podcast. That is all.)

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